Elaine and I were privileged to host another of our Surviving the Divorce Maze! workshops last evening at the historic Stone House in Evergreen. We had a solid turnout and we continued to learn of what remains important to divorcing parties and our potential clients.
Our attendees asked good questions about the challenges of the divorce passage that they were about to traverse. We heard:
Is it normal to experience the emotions in my life at this point?
Forms we find online and even in published works and guides leave us baffled; is the only alternative formal legal assistance?
We want a simpler less expensive process, sure, but aren't there significant risks in mediating?
We hear of information that is frightening about inflexible rules regarding division of property and support; is it all true we have little ability to manage the approach of our divorce in a more nuanced fashion?
Are all these child support and spousal maintenance calculators we hear about absolutely binding even if the result would be supremely burdensome or inadequate to myself or my spouse?
Are the substantial fees of combining two attorneys' retainers alone, inevitable costs of divorce?
How do we start any divorce and how long will it really take to navigate to its conclusion?
How do we know how to manage our parenting in a way truly in our children's best interest?
Are there alternatives to the formal roles we hear about (CFI's, parenting coordinators, PRE evaluators, even mediators) in forging a vision of a child-first parenting plan?
From my first work as a professional family and divorce mediator in the early 1990's, I learned my clients share good intentions and seek fairness, but they are often understandably concerned about their futures and the lack of control over the divorce process. A wise man once said:
Knowledge is the best and safest treasure to acquire.
Elaine and I continue to enjoy our workshops and aspire to share information of great value and creating a sense of safety to folks looking both at divorce's shadow and its possible opportunities.
Our next workshop is Tuesday, November 17, 2015, from 7:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m., once again at the Historic Stone House in Bergen Park | Evergreen, from 7:00 to 9:00 p.m. We encourage you to register now and/or let others who might be interested know of this special event.